Confidence is a tricky thing. Some people are born with it; for others, it remains highly elusive. When it comes to dating, confidence is all-important. Too much of it isn’t such a good thing, as you’ll come across as arrogant and overbearing, but if you lack confidence, dating is going to be painful and awkward.

In this article, we are going to give you some tips on how to boost your self-confidence so when you go on your first date, you won’t be a puddle of nerves.

Love Yourself, Warts and All

To be successful at dating, you must learn to love yourself first and foremost. This doesn’t mean you should be a raging narcissist, but a healthy dose of self-love will go a long way to helping you survive the inevitable knock-backs and rejections that are part and parcel of modern dating.

Nobody is perfect. We all have faults. You might hate your nose or believe you are fat. Or someone might once have told you that you were boring, and you took it on board. The more hang-ups you have, the harder it will be to see past your own flaws. In turn, this makes you a target for predatory individuals who deliberately look for people with low self-esteem, so they can manipulate them.

Go easy on yourself. You may not be a supermodel, but who cares? Most people are not looking for perfection. They just want someone who is nice, fun to be with, and they have something in common with. Confidence is hugely attractive. People with good self-esteem are great company. Rather than obsessing about whether they look fat, they are interested in what their date has to say. They don’t sit there all miserable and unhappy because they feel uncomfortable. They are much too busy making conversation and having a good time.

Which person would you rather be?

Give Your Image a Makeover

It is hard to feel confident when your hair is a mess and you haven’t got anything decent to wear. Make an appointment at a hair salon and ask for some advice. Have your hair cut, styled, and colored. A whole new look could be just what you need to find your mojo again.

Buy some new clothes. If you don’t feel comfortable buying clothes or you don’t have a clue what is in fashion, take a friend shopping with you. Let them advise you so you don’t end up picking clothes that are unsuitable for your figure.

Once you have some nice new clothes and your hair rocks, invest in new makeup. Try something different. Most of us are guilty of sticking to the same tried and tested makeup routines we have used since we were teenagers. If you’re in your 30s or 40s, isn’t it time for a change? Visit a large department store makeup counter and get your makeup done. Have your eyebrows shaped and see what colors suit you – and are in fashion.

Great hair, clothes, and makeup will help you feel more confident when you go on a first date. If you look good, you will feel good.

Don’t forget to buy some gorgeous underwear too! We are not advocating getting your kit off on the first date, but wearing sexy undies is always a confidence boost.

Fake It ‘til You Make It

Even if you don’t feel confident, act like you are. Maintain eye contact, make conversation, and remember that your date is probably as nervous as you are. The more confident you act, the more likely you will grow in confidence as the date progresses. Yes, it really does work!

Lastly, don’t get too hung up on whether the date does well. If it all goes horribly wrong, chalk it up to experience and move on. There are plenty more fish in the sea.